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Friday, September 8th 2023

Reflections of an Independent Escort

The start of September always seems like a natural time for reflection, goal setting, and what I like to think of as a ‘mental spring clean’. So I felt like sharing some thoughts on my experience so far as an independent Birmingham escort.

What a blast it’s been
To put it simply, the journey (so far) has been incredible. Deciding to become a GFE provider has brought so many blessings into my life, that it’s hard to count them all. I’ve met some wonderful people that have showed me nothing but warmth and affection. I’ve had some intense and exciting sexual experiences that dazzled me, and taught me a lot about my own sexuality. I’ve been treated to nights of luxury in some of the country’s best hotels and restaurants, that will remain treasured memories for years to come. I’ve met some very successful, intelligent, and inspiring men, that make me feel valued and teach me things that have enriched all areas of my life.
Every person that enters any form of sex work must have nerves, misgivings or apprehension when they make the decision to do so, not knowing what lies in front of them. Sometimes in life, you just can’t know if a choice is the right one until you until you take it and see how things work out. And the brilliant time I’ve had since becoming an escort has shown me that it was definitely the right decision for me – one of the best I’ve ever made!

Fears, assumptions, and misconceptions
Before we actually have any personal experience of the sex industry, as a client or as a provider, many of us fancy some very vivid notions of what it may be like; based on films, TV and music. And I’m certainly no exception. So here are some of my fears, assumptions, and misconceptions about escorting that I’m very happy to have been proved wrong about.

1. It’s all about late nights – This might seem like a strange one, but it surprised me initially that many of my dates take place during the daytime. Although I’m a night owl, and don’t mind staying up far beyond a sensible bedtime, it’s nice to have a varied schedule and also enjoy dates during daylight hours.

2. Clients just want you to ‘play a part’ – I did have minor concerns, that many clients would be hoping for a delicate and agreeable nymph more than a real-life girlfriend connection. That they would be happiest if you just turn up looking pretty, and then spend the booking duration smiling sweetly and keeping your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Although I do find it a turn on to be ‘objectified’ in a sexual manner, I was uneasy with the idea of acting like a cute little ‘doll’. As it turns out though, most men are complex, interesting and thoughtful individuals, who are stimulated by the same. During my bookings, I don’t ‘play a part’, I just play myself – only my best, hottest, sexiest self.

3. You lose interest in sex – You know that saying, that if you work in a chip shop, you never want to come home to chips for tea. I have a high sex drive and sex is my chosen vice, so you can imagine my worry that by having a more active sex life that I had done previously, it may affect my desire. The worry was not completely unfounded, as since becoming an escort, my sex drive definitely has been affected – but in a very positive way! Sharing wild sexual encounters with strangers (that quickly become friends) is a very addictive kind of thrill. It has increased my (already quite high) level of confidence in the bedroom, and has increased my skill level too of course – so now I look forward to sexual encounters even more than I did before; feeling relaxed in the knowledge that I have the physical and also the verbal/communication techniques necessary, to make it a great experience for my date, and also for myself. I have realised that a love of sex is a passion you can nurture like any other, and I am always trying to learn new things about it, whether from books, films, or personal experience.

And some preconceptions that are true!
For balance, I should probably say that some of the glittery ideas I had about my new secret life as a (super high class) escort have turned out to be accurate. Here are some pleasing highlights:

1. You get a taste for the finer things in life – If only the broke university student Summer could have glimpsed into the future, to see herself drinking fine wines, eating (vegan) caviar, and being gifted Chanel and Agent Provocateur… I think she would have become an escort all the sooner! Wonderful treats like these are never expected, but they always so appreciated, and they just bring that extra level of excitement to a date.

2. You get to hang around with super hot girls all the time – Wow, what can I say. As a bisexual who loves a threesome, getting paid to get it on with with my stunning escort friends is almost too good to be true. I have met some really incredible women through escorting, who have become firm friends, including a few who have also become my favoured duo partners. And I must admit, I have one or two secret crushes on escorts I haven’t met yet, but very much hope to. Here’s to manifesting those dates.

3. You live a secret double life – I do enjoy this part, although that’s only because we are fortunate enough in the UK for prostitution to be legal, so my secret is not an incriminating one. Long gone are the days when only drug dealers would have two mobiles, and now lots of people use two (or more) devices, so fortunately using two phones doesn’t lead to any awkward questions. Nobody bats an eyelid when I get an indecent proposal texted to me on my indecent phone, and then I make my excuses and disappear, to get dressed up to the nines, and make my way to my fancy man’s apartment with a handbag full of condoms and sex toys. Once, I met a friend for a cocktail on the way home from a booking, and when the security guard searched my bag on the way into the bar, he surveyed the contents (including stockings, a vibrator, assorted condoms, lube, and £400 in cash) quietly said “I like your style” and let me enter. My friend was none the wiser about what he’d seen…

Lessons I Have Learned
Aside from in depth knowledge of hotel reservation procedures and Ann Summers product ranges, there is a lot to be learned from being an escort. These are some valuable lessons that I have taken away and applied to other areas in life.

1. To be clear and accurate with your marketing – This may seem really obvious, but giving a clear idea through your marketing of who you are, and what you can (and can’t) offer is central to attracting the type of clients you desire, and those who will appreciate your service. I feel my website must give a good representation of what I am like, as I am lucky enough to have the most wonderful clients who I get on with and have lots in common with. I don’t think this is just a lesson to be applied to marketing efforts, but to many situations in life: know what your desires are, and make sure you express them clearly.

2. To create relationships with trusted and respected colleagues – Although new recruits to any industry will be advised of the importance of networking, it’s a different challenge when you are an independent escort. Unless you actively seek out opportunities to connect with other service providers, you could actually go the duration of your escorting career without meeting another escort. Having trusted peers to share your experiences and exchange advice with, is so important. A couple of months into my escorting career I was very pleased to be admitted to the Indie Collective, a friendly network of independent escorts based throughout England, and with that I gained an incredible group of clever, kind and supportive ladies to share my journey with. Thank you ladies 🧡

3. Not to allow people to push your boundaries – This is really an extension of number 1, to be clear what you can (and can’t) offer. Not every client is for you, the same as you are not for every client, and that’s OK. When people ask you to do things or act in a way they know you normally wouldn’t, you should never acquiesce to their demands, because they usually wouldn’t appreciate it anyway, and you would feel the unease of being outside your comfort zone from that point on. Being assertive while remaining polite and friendly is a valuable skill to master and apply to all areas of your life, and since becoming an escort, I’ve perfected saying ‘no’ to things I don’t want to do!

Goals and Plans for the Future
So far, my experience as a Girlfriend Experience provider has been a dream. As the secret fantasy girl for my clients, most days will be animated by a flirtatious text exchange, a spicy encounter on a date, or at least a filthy daydream about activities indulged in recently! I’ve also ticked off some sexual bucket list items, including being part of a foursome, being blindfolded, and being gifted a sex toy. All three were even better than I expected, so here are some new wish list items that I would love to be a part of my escorting experience over the coming year.

1. My first single female client – I’m sad to say that I have yet to entertain my first solo female client. I have had FF experiences, but never with in an escort/client context, and this is something I would really love to share with a bi-curious, bisexual or lesbian woman. Single ladies… put your hands up!

2. My first MMF threesome – I’m not sad to say that I’ve yet to entertain my first MMF threesome, but it is something I would love to experience at least once in this life! If you would too, let me know. Don’t be shy, come and email it quietly into my ear…
3. My first FMTY – So far, invitations to visit to clients, as well as my own tour plans, have seen me travelling to nearly every corner of the UK. And after spending two years stuck at home with my laptop and my house plants, the sense of adventure this brings couldn’t be more welcome. Until now though, I have not been on a FMTY date to travel abroad to and meet a client in a foreign land, and that is something I would love to happen over the year to come.

Thank you to all of those who have been a party of the story so far and made it special for me – I hope you have as many amazing memories as I do.

Summer Dahlia 🧡xxx

Tuesday, June 6th 2023

FAQS

This is a list of questions I frequently get asked, mostly about my clients, my services, and booking etiquette. Most of your initial booking questions will be answered in this post. Please use my contact form to ask me for any further information.

Do you see black/white/asian clients?
Yes. I would never dream of discriminating based on colour, nationality or ethnicity. If you are hygienic and respectful with a good sense of humour, there�s a good chance we will get on well.

Do you smoke/drink? Can I?
I am a light drinker and do enjoy the occasional cocktail, but usually prefer to stick to soft drinks. I don�t smoke. I don�t mind you smoking (at your place, not mine). I am 420 friendly and don�t mind you bringing a bottle or having a drink or two during our session. Needless to say, if you arrive at your booking clearly under the influence of drink or drugs, I will not be seeing you.

Do you charge any hidden extras?
No, everything we do during our time together is included in the price. I am offering a luxury Girlfriend Experience, not a meal deal.

What if I need to cancel? Will I get my deposit back?

If you let me know about your cancellation at least 24 hours before the booking, I will leave it open for you to rearrange any time with in 6 months from the original date. You don�t have to tell me why you are cancelling � life happens. If you cancel less than 24 hours before the booking was due to take place, I will keep your deposit as a cancellation fee. In the unlikely event that I need to cancel, then of course I will return any money paid as soon as possible.

[/b]I don�t want to include full penetration in our session, but there are other aspects of female company I enjoy, and I still want to see you. Is that OK?[/b]
Yes of course, that�s absolutely fine. Pleasure is not just about penetration. Every client/escort relationship is unique, we don�t have to check off a list of activities.

Would you ever consider bareback?
Don�t be ridiculous.

Can I shower before/after the session?
Yes you can. Wherever and whenever I am hosting incalls, there will always be shower facilities available for you to use. If you choose not to, I expect you to be freshly showered immediately before coming to see me, and I will expect you to wash your hands on arrival.

What do I need to provide for screening?
For screening I will need you to provide your name and phone number in the relevant fields of my contact form. I will want to have a brief phone call with you in order to confirm our booking, but we can agree the time for this over email � I will never use your number to send you an unexpected text or phone call. Discretion is guaranteed. I do not ask for any ID documents in my screening process for UK bookings.

Tuesday, June 6th 2023

Tips for new clients who are feeling nervous

This is a post for the first-timers out there: gentlemen (or ladies!) who are new to seeing escorts and may be feeling nervous, or unsure of what the booking procedure and the date itself will be like. You may be someone with very limited experience of sex with a partner, or you may have had lots of partners and relationships, and be confident in the bedroom, but brand new to seeing sex workers.
Either way, you have probably been thinking about it for a while now, looking at the websites of service providers that pique your interest, maybe even talking to friends for advice� and the time has come to dive into the deep end!

Read on for advice on and tips about how to make sure this will be a great experience for you, and for your escort too.

Who should I see?
Probably the most important aspect of planning a great date, is making sure you choose the right escort for you. There are a few different ways to procure the services of a sex worker, from visiting a brothel or massage parlour; or booking an agency escort by calling up an agency; to contacting an independent escort via a directory, social media, or better still, their own website.

Booking an independent escort through their own website will give you a much greater degree of control and personalisation over your experience than any other option. With any professional independent escort, you can clearly see their personality and style shine through from the way they present themselves online, and get a good idea of whether you will feel happy and relaxed spending time alone with them. Also, you know that they themselves have chosen to offer the service(s) described on their site, because they want to � you don�t have to worry about asking �do you really offer X?� or �do you really enjoy Y?� � we are in charge of what we do, and the services we advertise are generally accurate.

And how do you know which services are right for you? There are many different services available from many different escorts, which are sometimes referred to by a confusing array of acronyms! Amongst others, these include GFE (Girlfriend Experience) and PSE (Pornstar Experience) as well as other services such as massage, kink and fetish services, and services that aren�t directly sexual such as cuddling and dinner dates. Most dinner dates do lead to sex afterwards though � it�s an urban myth that some escorts only ever have dinner with their clients. We share much naughtier things than dessert�

As you can imagine, not every date involves strictly one of the services listed, and many will be a combination of two (or more). Choose a provider that specialises in the primary service you are looking for. For those that are new to this, and want to experience the sweetness and excitement of that boy-meets-girl feeling, including kissing, oral sex, and penetration, as well as lots of attention, laughs, and flirty conversation � the Girlfriend Experience is definitely what you are looking for.

How do I book?
So now you�ve carefully chosen your desired service provider� what next? Make sure you read through their website thoroughly before contacting them to book. This will provide information about how they prefer to be contacted (usually phone, text, email, or a contact form).
When making contact to arrange a date with them, be sure to include the details, such as the day, time, location, and your phone number � or else you will not be prioritised amongst the many other inquiries in their inbox. Also take this opportunity to ask any further questions you have about your escort, their service, or the date you are planning � but make sure you don�t ask any questions that are already answered elsewhere on her site, as it won�t make a good first impression.

When you contact me to request a booking (ideally via my contact form or email address) I will respond as quickly as possible � usually the same day or next day � to let you know that I am available, or suggest an alternative day/time if I am not. Once we have agreed on our date, I will send you the instructions for making the deposit, and once I have received that, I will send you the address and parking information for the venue where we will meet, if you are visiting me for an incall; and ask you to send me the hotel or home address I will be attending for an outcall.
Finally, I will specify the time I would like you to send me a confirmation text/whatsapp message, usually either the day before or the morning of our date. And you�re all set!

What do I need to do to prepare? Should I bring anything with me?
To put it bluntly, all you need to do is have a good scrub and turn up. The importance of personal hygiene cannot be overstated here. Make sure you are fresh from head to toe right before meeting your escort. She will be sure to notice the effort you have put in for her, and the session will get off to a wonderful start.
You don�t need to bring anything with you � apart from the appropriate fee and a smile! We will provide everything required; things like condoms, lube, and clean towels. If you have a particular preference with condoms (eg due to a latex allergy), make your escort aware of this well before the booking so she can provide them. Most escorts do not encourage clients to arrive with their own condoms.

Now that you have got a plan in place with your gorgeous date, you can just relax and enjoy the anticipation. Providing sexual services as an independent escort is totally legal in the UK, so neither you nor I will be breaking the law in any way. Even so, there are still many negative portrayals of sex workers in the media, but now you have made plans personally with an independent escort, you can push those stereotypes aside, to focus on the exciting, unique, and charming individual you are about to share a very intimate experience with.

What will happen during the booking?
So they day has finally arrived, and you have sent your confirmation text as requested, washed behind your ears, and arrived on her doorstep at exactly the right time� what happens on the other side of that door?

If you are nervous and would like to chat first, or simply prefer to pace yourself rather than tearing clothes off straight away, then we can sit together and share a drink and a conversation to get to know each other. In a hotel, we can meet at the bar before going up to your room, and in a house or apartment we can get cosy on the couch before heading to the bedroom.
If you are coming for an incall, I will then offer you a shower, and if you have just showered, I will invite you to wash your hands. When I�m coming for an outcall, please ensure there is a clean towel waiting for me to do the same.

And everything that happens after that, shall remain between us�

Do we have to do penetration?
Of course not. There are many different aspects of sex other than this, and we don�t have to be engaging in sexual activities for all (or any) of the booking time.
If you are a virgin, or you are hoping to increase your experience or skill level in the bedroom, seeing escorts is a sensible and healthy way to do this. You can use your experiences with escorts to take control of your sexuality, and build up your confidence by creating the sex life you desire, rather than waiting for your ideal partners to fall into your lap� because usually, they don�t!

You can ask also your escort to answer questions you have about sex, and the bodies of the opposite gender, as well as to give you tips or feedback to improve your performance. There are many ways that a date with us can be an enriching experience, beyond just putting a football in a goal, so to speak�

Now that you are armed with all the information needed to pop your escort cherry, go on and write that booking email, and I dare you to send it 😉

A kiss on the lips�

Summer Dahlia 🧡 xxx

Tuesday, June 6th 2023

The Blindfold Experience: An Erotic Story

This post contains the erotic story of a date I had, not so long ago.

The Beginning
I was on the train on my way to London, where I was due to spend the next few days. Halfway there, my phone lit up with a text message – from one of those clients that makes you smile as soon as you see his name on your screen, before you have even opened the message.
Once I opened it, my smile widened into a grin, and I glanced up furtively to make sure no one in the carriage had noticed… not that they could ever have known what I smiling at, of course.

I had received a invitation to spend the evening with him later that week, on my last night in the capital. We had met once before, and enjoyed a beautiful night together; sharing stories about ourselves, finding that we had similar sexual proclivities (and indulging in them at length), and taking in some fresh air and city views on the top floor hotel balcony. Our schedules kept mismatching over the next few months as we tried to arrange another date, but at last, my luck was in. He confirmed the time for our second date and paid in full – so far, so smooth.
Until a little while later, when, with the train approaching the outskirts of London, I got another message that sent my excitement into overdrive: he asked whether I would like to try being blindfolded, as I’d told him that was something I had never experienced before. I responded with poorly contained enthusiasm, we agreed on our boundaries, and the plan was set.

The Middle

Arriving at a hotel on the edge of London, on a sunny evening later that week, I walked past the reception desk and headed straight up to his room. I was dressed as requested, in leggings and a crop top, with my favourite trainers. I knocked softly on the door. He opened it and stood back, as I entered the room with my head bowed… neither of us spoke, and as agreed, I sat on the edge of the bed with my eyes closed.

A few long minutes passed before he approached me. I could hear him moving around me and placing items on the desk, eagerly trying to assess every sound I could hear. It was almost impossible to resist opening my eyes for a peek, but I didn’t want to spoil the surprise.
Finally, he slipped a silky blindfold over my head until it covered my eyes, and carefully adjusted the elastic holding it in place above my ears.

“The safe word is… Butterfly.”

I acknowledged the magic word, and he promised that he wasn’t planning to do anything painful, but would remove the blindfold as soon as I said it.

Then he began to run his soft fingertips over my body. It felt incredible, my skin tingling with heightened sensitivity because I couldn’t see. From that moment on I fell into a blissful, almost trance-like state. Over the next couple of hours, he teased me from head to toe, with his fingers, his hands, his mouth… Pausing occasionally to remove an item of my clothing, he continued teasing and undressing me until I was totally naked, except for the blindfold.
He then picked up (what I soon discovered to be) a small butt plug from the table, and rubbed its cold, smooth metal on my skin, to warn me of what was coming next. We had agreed on this in advance, but I was still overcome with nervous excitement. After carefully rubbing lube on me with his fingers, he instructed me to keep breathing deeply, as he slowly and gently pushed it inside me. Gasping in pleasure, I rolled my hips around and thrust them in the air as I took in the intensity of the sensation. Finally his tongue brought me to an incredible climax, my body going wild from being stimulated in so many wonderful ways.

The End

I lay back on the bed and slowly caught my breath. He came and kissed me on the forehead, and told me that he was leaving, while my eyes were still covered; that he had left some drinks for me on the side, and the hotel room was mine to use for the rest of the night. I could barely utter a reply, but I thanked him for the incredible experience he had created for me, and he quietly left.

I lay there for a while longer basking in the after-sex glow, before standing up and gingerly removing the blindfold. It was fully dark by now, but the dim bedroom light still made me recoil in shock as it flooded into my eyes. Bending over in front over the mirror and pulling my ass cheeks apart, I saw a beautiful, round, rainbow coloured crystal glinting back at me from between them.

Naturally, I kept it, and that butt plug is now one of the most treasured toys in my collection 🌈

Here’s to trying new things… 🦋

Summer Dahlia 🧡 xxx